You know which dance you're in. Now you change it.

Knowing your conflict pattern doesn't change it. Every couple who has ever said "we know we do this" while continuing to do it is proof of that. The gap between seeing a pattern and interrupting one is made of practice, and practice needs structure.

Twenty-three pages of it — worksheets, scripts, and a four-week plan for both partners. No re-taking the quiz and no re-reading your results.

What's inside:

Put your results side by side — four readings for what different result combinations mean, plus a scripted first conversation
Map your actual cycle — eight steps from trigger to the next morning, and an early-warning worksheet for each partner's tells
Build the interrupt — a signal you both agree to, and a signed time-out agreement
The conversation framework — eight steps, with a worksheet to fill in before you talk
The four-week plan — one structured conversation a week, sequenced from small to significant
Repair — what an actual repair sounds like, and how to receive one
The live catch log — the page that does the rewiring
Week four review, and retake the quiz to compare

Print it or fill it in on screen.

Take the free Conflict Style Quiz first — this workbook builds on your results.

A coaching resource for personal reflection. Not therapy, counseling, or a clinical assessment.

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